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AC/DC: bisexual
Adult: euphemism for pornographic
All Cultures: person or couple who enjoys all fetishes and sexual activities.
Anal: anal intercourse. See Greek, Greek Culture
Animal Training: sexual activity with animals, usually dogs and women.
Arts: euphemism for fetishes.

B: black person
B & D: bondage (binding a person with rope or restraints) and discipline
Bestiality: sexual activity with animals, usually dogs and women
Bi bisexual: (more-or-less equally interested in individuals of both sexes)
Bicurious: not sure if they're bisexual, but willing to give it a try
Bisexual: more-or-less equally interested in individuals of both sexes
Bizzare: unusual sexual desires; way out
Bondage: a sexual fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or leather straps are used to bind, tie or hold a participating sexual partner. The person doing the binding is considered "dominant" while the person being bound is considered "submissive"

Can Entertain: willing to invite others to their home for swinging
Can Travel: prefer not to have you at our house (usually due to kids at home)
Caning: a spanking fetish employing a light cane usually bamboo or light wood
Cheating: sexual activity with others without spouse's knowledge and consent
Clean: hygienic; free of sexually transmitted diseases
Closed Door: see Closed Swinging
Closed Swinging: intercouple sex between couples in different rooms
Closet Swinger: a person who hides the he/she is a swinger.
Couple in swinging: a man and a woman. may be married, living together (cohabitating), committed (on going relationship) or a single couple dating for swinging purposes; cpl
Cpl: couple
Culture: euphemism for fetish, arts. See English Culture, Greek Culture,
Crossdresser: enjoys wearing clothes of opposite sex
Cunnilingus: stimulation of the vagina and clitoris by the mouth especially the tongue and lips and sometimes the teeth (see French Culture)

Dildo: an artificial penis, usually made of rubber or plastic, for sexual stimulation of the vagina and sometimes the anus
Director: the term used to describe the principal person who runs or otherwise operates a swing club, generally the owner. A person who works for the director and is responsible for party or club operation whether or not for pay, is generally call a manager
Discipline: a sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant. Often includes physical punishment of the submissive partner, ranges from physical restraint to mild spankings to painful beatings
Discretion: asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others who may open mail or answer phone will not be offended and/or made aware of the swinging activity
Docile: willing to receive bondage and/or discipline (see Submissive)
Domestic Training: submissive obedience to household chores of an intimate and humiliating nature.
Dom: see Dominant
Dominant: the sexual partner in control of the willing submissive partner

: (see Can Entertain)
Exhibitionist: a person who is sexually stimulated by being seen or watched by others while showing sexual portions of the body or engaging in sexual acts.
Exotic Styles: refers to quite a different form of fetish or erotic clothing
English: usually involves discipline, for example: caning, flagellation, whipping
English Culture: sexual stimulation from spanking or caning

F; female
Fellatio: sexual stimulation of the penis by the mouth, especially by the tongue and lips and sometimes teeth
Fetish: sexual arousal and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions or non-genital anatomy
Flagellation: sexual stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking
French: oral sex; genital or anal
French Culture: oral-genital sexual activity
Fun and Games: euphemism for sexual activity

G: gay person (male or female) interested in individuals of the same sex. A gay female may also be called a lesbian
Generous: usually means that money is exchanged for sex
Golden Showers: urination on another person
Greek: anal-penile intercourse
Greek Culture: anal-penile intercourse
Group Room: room set aside for group sex, generally furnished with wall-to-wall mattresses or pads. Term is prevalent in Western US (see matroom).
Group Sex: swinging; social-sexual activity between three or more people.
Growth Swinging: social-sexual environment that promotes emotional, personal and social growth

Hard Core: a swing party or swing engagement where sexual interaction is assumed and expected
Hard Swinging: see Hard Core
Head: oral-genital sexual activity; "giving head"
Hedonist: euphemism for a swinger; lives for pleasure
Heterosexual: sexual attraction to members of the opposite sex
Homosexual: sexual attraction to members of the same sex. (see Gay)
Horny: sexually tense; in need of sexual pleasure.
Humanist: person who believes in human values, potential, self-respect of the individual, personal freedom and human rights
Hung: refers to a man with a large penis

Indoor Sports: swinging activities in general.
Interested in Friendship: seeks a swinging relationship that includes emotional and recreational values. Used chiefly in personal ads and letters in answer to personal ads

Leather: a fetish; sexual stimulation through the wearing of leather garments
Leathercraft: interest in leather fetishism
Lesbian: a woman sexually and emotionally attracted to other women (see Gay)

M: male
Marital Aids: dildos, vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self and others.
Masochism: sexual gratification through receiving pain and humiliation from others.
Master/Slave: participants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship (see B&D, bondage, discipline)
Matroom: room set aside for group sex. Principally an Eastern US term (see Group Room).
Meet for Pleasure: will meet for swinging sex; no pretense for social or emotional interaction not directly related to sexual activity. Used chiefly in personal ads and letters in answer to personal ads.
Menage A' Trois: three people, two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging interaction. May involve an on-going emotional relationship of the participants. See Threesome, Triad
Moresomes: more than three people in a swinging interaction.

NASCA: the North American Swing Club Association. An association of swing clubs and magazines to promote swinging as the viable and beneficial lifestyle it has become, to give a national voice to the growing swinging community and to promote the development of ethical swing clubs. Levels of members: Affiliate club, General, Associate and Institutional for swing clubs and magazines, general swinging community, media and institutions of learning and research
Newcomers: new people in swinging; first-timers
Nonsmoker: does not smoke. If used in personal ad means only those who do not smoke are sought for swinging purposes.

O: oriental person
open door see Open Swinging
Open Swinging: a couple swinging with another couple in the same room; several or all participating couples together in the same room; (Western US) swing party where participants socially mix and are free to swing as couples, in one-to-one pairings and group sex during the progress of the party.
Oral-Genital: see Cunnilingus, Fellatio, Head
Orgy: sexual interaction among several men and women in the same room; see Group Sex

Party: gathering of three or more people of both sexes for swinging
Party Clothes: clothing particularly adapted for swing party wear, includes wear to the party and wear to change into during the party the latter includes robes, lingerie, terry cloth wrap-arounds and other simple wear that is easily removed, shows the wearer to best advantage and often makes selected parts of the body easily available for erotic courting and play
Party House: (Western US): a non-membership swing club offering a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties.
Passive: quiet, submissive non-contributor, willing to receive corrective training. docile and submissive in swinging (see discipline)
Photo: interested in exchange of nude or sexually explicit photos of self with similar photos of others
Photography: interested in exchange and/or making of nude or sexually explicit photographs, color slides or movies with similar photographs, slides or movies of others; interested in meeting with others for the making of these photographs
Polaroid: interest on erotic photos (but no negatives involved)
P/P: photo and phone number (used in personal ads).
Pro: professional; i.e. prostitutes or paid escorts.

Roman: group sex, orgies
Roman Culture: sexual orgies
Recreational Swinger: a person who practices swinging primary as a recreational diversion with no desire for emotional attachment
Restraint: mild bondage used in sexual fantasy enactments
Rubber: condom means of contraception. Sexual stimulation through the look, feel and smell of rubber, usually associated with B&D

S&M: sadomasochism: giving (sadism) or receiving (masochism) pain or discomfort
Safe: used to describe a person who cannot conceive or impregnate; a man who has had a vasectomy. Also refers to a rubber or condom
Same Room Sex: intercouple sex between couples in same room
SASE: self-addressed stamped envelope.
Sgl single person.
Shaved: usually most or all of the pubic area
Single: a swinger without a partner, single or married.
Social: a party, dance or other gathering usually sponsored by a swing club or magazine, for swingers to meet and socialize. there is no swinging at a social but privately arranged swinging may follow a social
Social Swing Club: a swing club, generally private membership that offers social and swinging activities including a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties. They may also offer educational and travel activities. Usually there is a membership fee and either party fees, party donations or a regular maintenance fee or dues. Party attendance may be restricted to couples though the marital status of the couple is rarely important
Soft Swinging: a social, erotic swing party environment where sexual activity is common and available, but not required or assumed. Sometimes used to describe swapping up to, but not including intercourse. The term developed in Southern California in the early 1970's. See Hard Swinging, Hard Core
STD: sexually transmitted disease. a term developed in the late 1970's to replace VD as the latter carried social and moral implications in the minds of many. these social and moral implications interfered with the legitimate treatment of sexually transmitted diseases as a medical problem
Str: straight (ie not gay - hetrosexual)
Straight: non-swinger; a swinger who is not interested in same sex sexual activity; a person who does not use drugs; non bisexual, non-gay
Student: the submissive role during English scenario
Submissive: see Passive
Sub submissive: plays the passive, controlled role during scenario
Submissive: plays the passive, controlled role during scenario
Swapping: two couples exchanging partners for sexual activity
Swedish Culture: use of the hands especially in massage to sexually stimulate
Swing Magazine: a periodical catering to the swinging community. Usually carries personal ads of people wishing to meet others for swinging purposes. May also publish articles of general interest to the swinging community
Swinging: social-sexual relational recreation among men and women. It is a couple oriented activity but single men and women sometimes are involved
Swinging Lifestyle: style of living with swinging a major component in recreation, choice of friends, business and social life, and intimate relationships
Swinging Marriage: marriage incorporating swinging and often, humanistic ideals

Teacher: the dominant role during English scenario
Threesome: three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter. Not the same as a "menage a' trois" in that the latter may involve emotional involvement and a continuing relationship
Ticket: a person, usually a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable the man to gain entrance. The ticket generally has no intention to swing or is not free to swing
Toys: sexual aids. See Marital Aids
Travel: see Can Travel
Triad: three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing relationship of emotional and sexual involvement. not the same as a threesome
Triolism: used in personal ads to indicate desire for "threesomes". This is a common but confusing usage. See Triad
Tubal Ligation: surgical procedure of cutting and tying the fallopian tubes to make a woman infertile. A method of contraception. Also called a band aid operation in reference to the small incision made just below the navel to enable the cutting and ligation
TV: transvestite: a male who enjoys dressing up and impersonating a female

Utopian Swinger: a person who practices swinging as a total lifestyle with humanistic ideals

Vasectomy: surgical procedure of cutting and tying the vas deferens to make a man infertile; a method of contraception
Versatile: bisexual. See AC/DC
Vibrator: electrically run vibrating device for stimulation of the vagina by insertion or holding to outer lips, clitoris, breasts and the male penis. Some vibrators are penile shaped and are run by batteries while more expensive ones are for surface use and are run by an AC motor from a typical wall outlet. Vibrators are used by both men and women for self-stimulation and to sexually please another
Voluptuous: fullness of beauty and form; usually used to refer to a woman with large well-formed breasts; may also refer to full but well formed hips
Voyeur: a person who enjoys and is stimulated by watching others in sexual acts
Voyeurism: the act of being a voyeur

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